Diary: The one about the tie
The necktie's European origins can be traced to Croatian mercenaries serving in France during the Thirty Years' War (1618–1648).
Two days ago, I purchased my first ties—two Yves Saint Laurent in a Malmö vintage shop. The clerk and I estimated them to be from the 1970s. That evening, I attempted to tie one, resorting to YouTube tutorials, but lacked the patience to master the knot.
The following day, I visited a men's shop, where a helpful clerk assisted me. When I asked if she ever wore a tie at work, she replied, "Never. Men wouldn't buy a tie I've worn; they'd see it as feminine." She paused, then added, "Years ago, when I held a senior position, a tie would have been advantageous. It projects power and authority. Women rarely wear ties; when they do buy them here, it's usually for their husbands." She then displayed the shop's collection, revealing price tags exceeding €100 for some Italian designs. I was astonished by the artistry involved, both in the tie's creation and the skill of coordinating it with an outfit.
What does a tie symbolize?
Originally worn by military regiments, ties became symbols of power and respect. They spread rapidly through 19th-century Britain, becoming common in universities, schools, sports clubs, and gentlemen's clubs. Ties signified—and continue to signify—privilege and exclusivity.
Yesterday, I tried on the patterned Yves Saint Laurent tie, and the experience was exhilarating—unexpected, yet deeply satisfying. Today, I'll venture out wearing a tie, curious to observe any reactions. Will I feel different? The tie remains a potent symbol of power and masculinity, and that is something I find interesting to explore. Women in ties are a rarity, which led my thoughts to lesbian and female artists who have embraced this traditionally masculine garment throughout history. Radclyffe Hall, author of The Well of Loneliness, immediately comes to mind. At the National Portrait Gallery in London, I was surprised to see her portrait in a suit, positioned alongside those of King George VI and Churchill. A lesbian, unhidden. I wonder if her choice of attire played a role. Perhaps her wealth was a more significant factor, but the juxtaposition sparked a smile and a thought: there are no rules.
