I'm Gry Ellebjerg, a Swedish journalist and photographer. Sometimes I pretend life is logical. But then I was struck by a fever, an urge I had to follow without knowing why. To me, it was as necessary as eating and drinking to find what stories and pictures I had in me, if any at all.

I quit my job, created this website and hit The Pink Road in Europe to look for lesbians. I desperately wanted to know how they lived their lives.

According to the mainstream, lesbians are integrated and accepted today. In fact, we are so successful that we don't even need our own spaces anymore. Apparently, I can meet a lesbian anywhere, 24/7. I thought I'd check in with the ones who know: the lesbians. Is it true?

Did they have the same experience as me or were there a ton of variations?

To me, lesbians are a symbol of practical democracy. Like no other, they challenge norms in a way that has never been done in public before. Whether it's conscious or unconscious, just by breathing, lesbians are tearing down the wall of patriarchy. I think we should talk more about that.

I wanted to do it the "gut way," without planning interviews beforehand or doing tons of research. I had already started using this method in a project at my former job and wanted to explore it further. I believe the gut method also had to do with my state of mind.

I had lost my parents and the world's best cat, Doris. Grief makes you raw, like a baby. With three Interrail passes in my pocket, I showed up, met people and had heart-to-heart conversations without too many filters.

Traveling in the footsteps of lesbians has been an overwhelming experience. Instead of entering countries, I entered different queer rooms. If you put them next to each other, they build a country of their own with similar challenges and structures. Every time we gather, it's like a Eurovision rehearsal. I often felt like a puppy confronting a harsh reality. Let's be honest. Lesbians are not the easiest crowd.

I decided to write it in English. I had to trust how each word, each sentence sounded and felt more than usual. I had to accept imperfection and loss of control. Perhaps cracks were what I needed.

I have always wanted to write a book, so I am topping off my project with that. It feels like running 100 marathons without any breaks. I can now add to my CV: "expert in discomfort." In the book, you will find the conversations I had with lesbians in Europe. On this site, I share some of the stories from the road.

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